Success is the progressive realisation of your set goals. It should be an enjoyable and delightful journey and not a dreaded desperation to a destination.
Research studies suggest that successful people have certain positive attitude that set them apart from the crowd. Perhaps that’s why they succeed. On the other end of the spectrum, most unsuccessful people display a bad negative attitude that keeps them mired in past limiting and unsupportive beliefs and unproductive habits.
Here are 7 positive attitudes of successful people to help you decide where your attitude falls along the spectrum from the positive to the negative and what to do about it.
Attitude #1- Have a healthy self-image
Most successful people are cheerful, happy and delightful to be around. They feel absolutely terrific about who they are – no better and no worse than the next person. They don’t feel superior or inferior to anyone. They are just satisfied with their healthy self-image and have no wish to be anyone else. They believe the best about themselves.
They value, respect and appreciate everything about themselves irrespective of the circumstances around them. They work towards changing things in their circumstances or life rather than complaining and moaning about them. Many know who they are. They are happy being in their own skin and have a pleasing, attractive personality.
Attitude #2 – Take full responsibility
Successful people take full responsibility for their lives, actions and results. They don’t blame the government, economy, relatives or their past mental conditioning for the plight and position they find themselves in. Instead they struggle and work hard to change and develop themselves to mature emotionally. Thus they retain their personal power and control over their lives, affairs and circumstances.
Attitude #3 – Think and Talk positively
Successful people, by choice, think and talk positively about themselves. They may not have gotten it all together but they don’t criticise and run themselves down when things go wrong. They salvage what they can and move on. They don’t demean and belittle themselves or others. They give everyone the respect they expect from others.
By thinking positive thoughts and talking positively, they avoid the tendency to slip back into past mental conditioning of grumbling, feeling anxious and worrying about what could have been instead of what is. They also avoid negative energy and mindless negativity that surround us at work and play on a daily basis.
Attitude #4 – Know what they want
Successful people have a clear concise mental image of what they want in life. They spend time imagining what they want until the image becomes crystal clear. Then they set it as a goal and go to work to obtain it. Goal-orientation sets them apart as purposeful people giving their lives direction and meaning. They are often busy pursuing their set goals, not being distracted and diverted by minor issues of daily life.
Attitude #5 – Commit to Excellence
Successful people strive for excellence in their work. They do the best they can and continue to improve themselves and their work. Most of them commit to giving better service and more use value in goods offered than prices charged.
Most of them work hard putting in the effort to use their time as effectively and efficiently as they can. Many are extra milers. Hence they prefer to work for themselves, putting in the extra time to keep the rewards of their effort.
Attitude #6 – Welcome challenges
Successful people welcome obstacles and problems as challenges to stretch their imagination, skills, knowledge and ability. Rather than grumbling about obstacles and seeing boulders in their path as giant mountains to be scaled, successful people are solution oriented. They seek ways to reduce obstacles to manageable chunks to demolish. They reward themselves for challenges they overcome. Thus they learn from every encounter or failing and grow to do better.
Attitude #7 – Thrive on failings
Successful people view failings as necessary part of succeeding. They realise that failing is not an end but a process of learning what does not work until they stumble on what works. Consequently they thrive on failings. They don’t give up and quit no matter how many times it take to overcome a challenge.
Many know that we learn more from our failings than from areas where we succeed first time. Thus they accept setbacks and roadblocks as opportunities to reassess their plans and prepare to try again. As a result many can bounce back speedily from setbacks or adversity and still succeed.
Mabel Joshua-Amadi, Ph.D is an inspirational speaker and the Author of a new book, The Power of Attitude, (Filament Publishing, 2011). She is also a consultant in building lasting confidence and strategies for success. Her blog posts that include tools and techniques for improving attitude can be found at www.DoctorJoshuaamadi.com. Follow her on Twitter at @JoshuaamadiM