Confidence is a learned skill. That means anyone can learn to be confident. No one was born confident. Even presidents learned to develop confidence in office to carry out their difficult assignment.
Your self-image, the way you regard and see yourself, has a lot to do with confidence. When you feel good about yourself, you have a spring in your step and you can walk tall. However on a down day when doubts and fears assail, you can still boost your confidence and succeed in whatever you have to do by sheer habit built over time.
Here are 5 easy and proven ways you can appear confident, be confident and be perceived as confident.
#1 Think the best of yourself
In a world where many people are ready to pull you down when you’re up and lower when you are down, you have to think the best of yourself. Have a mental self-image that says “I believe in myself and I can learn to accomplish any given task.” If you don’t believe in yourself, chances are no one else would. Your beliefs about yourself and your abilities are reflected in your attitude and body language that others can easily read.
#2 Dress the part
Wherever you are, dress the part. You don’t have to spend a lot of money to look your best. When you look good, you feel good and you can hold your head up high. The reverse is also true. To dress the part, take care of your appearance and grooming to look your best.
#3 Good Posture
Maintain a good posture. Many people walk with slumped shoulders and shuffling gait looking down at their feet and wondering why no one takes them seriously. Your posture is the first impression others get about you. When you stand up straight and walk talk and briskly with even steps, no matter what type of day you are having, you convey the impression of feeling good within, being confident of who you are and going somewhere. You display a posture of purpose and direction.
A smile is like a magic bullet. It never fails to thaw cold, icy indifference, melt the stony face of anger or resentment and stop conflict in its tracks. You can smile your way past your critics and self-appointed foes and keep walking tall. Before they can think of ways of cutting you down you’ve passed them, still smiling. A smile makes you look inviting, friendly and approachable. It is a reflection of inner warmth, peace and calm assurance that others envy. You cannot be smiling and be angry, sad or despondent, so always give everyone your best smile.
#5 Maintain eye contact
Maintaining eye contact is crucial for you to be perceived as confident. Most people are wrapped up in their own worlds. When you can look them straight in the face without starring, you can connect and force them to take notice of you and what you have to say.
Eye contact demands attention and is a sign of confident self-assurance that others notice.
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Mabel Joshua-Amadi, Ph.D is an inspirational speaker and Author of a new book, Shatter Your Self-Doubt (AuthorHouse Publishing, 2013). She is also a consultant in building lasting confidence and strategies for success. Her blog posts that include tools and techniques for improving attitude can be found at www.DoctorJoshuaamadi.com. Follow her on Twitter at @JoshuaamadiM